I still consider myself to be a virgin blogger, a new kid on the block.
A while ago I posted about what I love about blogging here .
The points I made then still hold true for me and I could even add a few more now, in particular the beautiful souls I have met already in this virtual life. I truly love, treasure and value the banter and conversations that I am having with each one of you.
I have however, started to notice the downsides of blogging.
They are downsides for me, because of me and are not reflective of you beautiful people. The downsides are my own baggage;
I think I am using blogging to seek some form of validation, and also to feed my try hard driver.
I think I am using blogging to push and challenge myself. But I am not sure I am giving myself enough protection, I am not sure I am looking after me.
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These are all things to consider, Kahless. I think bloggers are ultimately comfortable once they identify their true purpose for blogging and accept that it okay to write whatever it is they need to write.
When I first started blogging, I did it to entertain myself and make friends online. I didn't understand that I had greater needs than these for my blogging. I needed to vent my frustration, share with others what was happening to me and have people accept me in spite of the events of my life. Perhaps you know enough about my history to understand why it is that I needed that. It took me a long time to accept that I needed a certain thing.
I think the key is finding the thing you really seem to need from blogging and then deciding for yourself whether the blogosphere is an acceptable way to have that need met.
That sounds like a good clear statement of who you are and what you are doing kahless.
Good stuff
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When I started blogging, Vi was supposed to be all about goss around me (as I had a RL blog for my business). But stuff kept happening to me, and it changed. I closed the RL blog, because I could be more honest and open on the anon blog.
Use your blog for what YOU want. Blogging has certainly helped me through some tough times.
We all bring our baggage to blogging K, and you are so great. One of my absolute favourites, I do hope you carry on - I shall admit to being selfish there.
So have you been validated in blog land?
In trying are you succeeding?
How can you protect yourself?
Being out there is always a challenge! I experience you as very real.
As for me, I thought I would be one thing on the blog and I turned out to be something very different, I dont bother projecting a face, what you see is what you get. I let my free child play.
mmmm although having said that, there are things I dont say .... I reveal the essence of my character but not all of the details, and lets face it, I bet we all censor the shadow side for fear of rejection. Interesting debate you have sparked off, I shall think on it further ...
I think an outlet is healthy as is the awareness that you need to keep yourself safe. What is this RL that I read about on PX, QV, and your blog as well as some others?
I think you are right K, and maybe it's because we are fairly new to blogging and the validation becomes addictive. But if we perservere as Lynn has done then maybe we'll end up doing it for the right reasons for ourselves.
And there's nothing wrong in being validated by the way.... it helps when the world feels a bit unsafe for whatever reason.
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